10 Things You Must Know About Dating with a Chinese Girl

Do you know about dating Chinese girls? Most Chinese girls prefer frank words to stammering words. Therefore, it is better to ask directly if she is free on some certain day to express your sincerity, rather than ask them some empty questions like “When are you free?”, which will get girls doubting about whether you want to date with her. Erratic dating always lack of sincerity will be ruined the whole thing at the end. Congratulations if the girl agreed to date you, which means you have already succeeded in half, and it has proved that she is comfortable with you, maybe she has a good feeling to you. This is the opportunity for you to develop into a friend with her. Therefore, how to make this date successful is very important. Here are some tips to note about dating Chinese girls.

1. Choose a suitable date-time is very important. It is best to be on the weekend when everyone is free. On the one hand, one will not have a temporary event or overtime affecting the dating plan. On the other hand, people don't have to rush home at the dating time because they have to go to work the next day. And it is best to put the date-time at night, because the psychological state of people in the evening will be relatively relaxed compared to the daytime, and it is easier to open the heart instead of being so shy.

2. Prepare a dating plan. You won’t be overwhelmed with a detailed dating plan. Here is a suggestion about the plan. You can have dinner first, then watch a movie, walk in the park, or find a tea house to drink tea, etc., with all f these need making an appointment first. Check the transportation route in advance (of course, it is best to concentrate all activities in the same area), so that she can have a right to choose at that time. Naturally, it will make her feel that you are so considerable and your heartfelt sincerity which is the most important factor to the date.

3. Dress up your appearance. First impressions count, which is likely to affect your follow-up. For you and her, it is your first date, a very formal meeting, it will show her how you valued this date with a good personal image. It didn’t mean that you have to wear those expensive and beautiful clothes, but they must be clean, tidy, well-matched and comfortable.

4. Get your date gift-ready. A gift is a small surprise, such as a bright, fresh tulip, a beautifully wrapped box of chocolates, a necklace with a simple design or an interesting little book. There is a saying that it is the thought that counts, so the gift chose for date should be tiny and delicate in design. Don't be too hasty. If you buy gold jewelry or a valuable leather bag for the first date, it will only scare her and make her feel stressed to be with you. It would be embarrassing when she refused to accept the gift cause it is so expensive.

5. Don’t smoke. Please restrain your desire for smoke, at least try not to smoke on this occasion. Don't spit, throw litter and chew too much when eating as well as eating too fast, but you can eat more for most girls like boys with a good appetite. Also, you cannot ignore the opportunities to open a car door and pull the seat for her along the way to send her home, which will show your gentility. Remember, she will pay special attention to remember your performance in these details.

6. Don’t mention your exes. If you mention it, this date will likely be messed up. Therefore, to be on the safe side, even if you want to know the other side's past, you have to hold back. More haste less speed. There will be plenty of opportunities in the future. Besides, many men have a common mistake that they always talk about their past relationships on the first date, which often ignores the girl's feelings. Girls will always think “ I am dating with you, is it the right time to talk about your ex?”

7. Praise her a little bit to win her attention. If you want her to notice you, you may start from yourself. Carefully pay attention to her dress that day and gently give her a compliment, which is enough to make her happy and draw her attention on you in the end. Learn more about her, like her life, work details, taste, hobbies, and interests via her trends and social platforms like Weibo.  When she knows that you are paying attention to her, it will also draw her attention to you and probably you have left a deep impression on her.

8. Form a good interaction. She may go gushing over her past, then you should take this opportunity to understand her inner world, don't interrupt. Listen carefully to her current situation, pay attention to her hobbies and views on things, and find some materials from it and ask questions to keep a good communication context. If she doesn't want to say anything, then you are the one to start a chat. Remember to talk with humor. You can talk about childhood fun, dreams, plans for life, things around you, or your anecdotes (this trick is very effective). As long as the topic you chose is funny, she is willing to listen. Don't bore her on the first date, otherwise, there will be no next time.

9. Give her your jacket. It is windy outside at night, and the girls usually wear less. It is not working if you just ask some vague questions like “ Do you feel cold?” or “Is it okay if I give you my jacket?”. Take off your coat and put it on her directly will show your manliness, and few girls will say no to it unless your clothes haven’t been washed for a long time.

10. Be sure to send her back. It is better to send her to the door of her house as you will know her place and you can pick her up yourself on the next date. The last step is to send a text message of Good Night, then the sweet first date will stop here.