How to Date Japanese Girls

The national character of the Japanese is propensity for conservative and cautious. The first time you meet a Japanese girl and is eager to show your warm by offering help, you may make her feel guilty as she bothered you so much. Therefore, if you want to be friends with Japanese girls, you may have to take your time.

Don’t keep the stereotype that Japanese girls are open as either men pursuing women or women pursuing men are all natural things in Japan. Many Japanese girls are conservative over engaging in a relation, so they will first consider whether they can get along with you or live together, instead of the economic factors or the appearance.

Step 1: the basic point - speak Japanese

As a normal girl, no one will communicate with you directly in body language (except for the porn industry). The point is the first step to pursuing a Japanese girl is to learn to speak Japanese first, even staggering out a little bit which would probably make her feel that you are kind of lovely. If you don’t know Japanese at all, no matter how kind and approachable you are, the relationship will not make any progress without any communication.

Nanako, a member of a high school society in Japan, said in an interview that she does not reject to dating foreigners, but the precondition is that they should be able to communicate verbally, otherwise it is almost impossible. Otherwise, it is almost impossible.

Step 2: take actions after you can speak a little Japanese

First of all, the use of the Japanese language. Japanese girls don't like those who trying to be cool. So, even if you want to stand out from the crowd, probably it's best not to act like some Korean band guys who seem like coming from Mars to save women on the earth. Japanese girls like passionate and sunny boys. The first thing they need when dating with boys is to be happy. As a result, the elemental thing you have to do is be honest and show them who you are.

No matter how many people around you, you should focus your attention on your girl, keep up with and get into their topics quickly. You can pretend you don’t understand some of the topics, or maybe you didn’t catch these topics, whatever, you will get more chance to chat with them. There is no shame in asking questions as you are a foreigner and it will not lower your position in their minds.

Furthermore, remember to read more fashion magazines and learn some katakana loanwords, which will refine your taste.

Step 3: respect their interests after being closer to them

Most Japanese girls own M (Masochism) nature, so lots of them will be led by the interest of boys. Of course, they also have a variety of their hobbies, which they usually don’t show them in front of you, but if you don’t know her interests or ignore them, then the relationship can’t going on anymore.

Girls' interests are often different from their appearance. For example, judging from the appearance as a quiet girl may like to stay at home or read books or she may also like rock music or even Gothic style.

Under such circumstances, even if you are not interested in their hobbies and interests, you should try to learn about them. Only in this way, you will get her trust in you gradually. You must know something about them, otherwise, how can you keep the conversation going?

PS: don't talk about what you dislike unless you know her well. One of the girls interviewed before never spoke to the boy she dated again after he said that he dislikes homegirls in front of her. (By the way, the girl doesn’t look like a couch potato at all...)

Step 4: being confident

Walking on the streets of Japan, you will see a lot of lovers, and what will make you surprised is that some very beautiful girls who were accompanied by some boys . . . ordinary-looking(┳_┳)...

This is not the case, instead, they have one thing in common: self-confidence.

In Japan, the real good-looking boys are not as much as China. But because of the self-confidence and he courage from the inside out, which was considered as a kind of masculinity for Japanese girls. After getting their trust, this masculinity will turn into a sense of security that they can count on you.

In this way, you can quickly move on to the next step.

Step 5: pay attention to your appearance and personal behavior in any occasions

You can be average looking, but you have to pay attention to your appearance. You can be uneducated, but you have to be nice. These are some points that Japanese girls value.

Usually, Japanese boys spend more time on makeup and clothes before going out. Now you know why the appearance and dress are important.

Last, I summarized all the steps as following:

1 Japanese girls value more on appearance and politeness, so please pay attention to your hygiene and expression.

2 Japanese girls are more accepting of going Dutch but don't always insist on that for every bill. Master the rhythm.

3 Don't try to be cool, which will kill you quickly.

4 Being more sunshine and positive, at least don't let girls think that you are an otaku.

5 Read more fashion magazines and pay more attention to clothing.

6 Being confident and smile is the key to success.