How to build a "security"

British psychology professor Lisa Ph.D has systematically explained how to build a "security":

Maintain self-independence.

understands the principle of maintaining independence, but what should I do?

1. Within one hour, the number of messages sent shall not exceed three

Unless there is an emergency, within an hour, there are not so many things worth contacting.

Have you eaten? Are you asleep? What are you doing?

Such questions are nonsense for girls at the beginning of the relationship.

When the relationship has reached a certain level, this type of question is only useful.

Function: Start a topic as a link or foreshadowing the next topic.

So, keep your distance at the beginning, but girls will be curious about you.

2. Send messages without seconds

Some boys will be excited when they see the news of their favorite girls.

Other people say: are you there?

In a boy’s mind, he can make up a big play.

Reply a dozen sentences instantly.

Here, I just finished my meal, so busy today...what's the matter?

Many boys expect that girls can comfort themselves when they are sad.

S ideas are not wrong, but this will only lead to more "insecurity" breed.

Because these negative emotions are bred from the heart, the comfort of girls does not have much effect.

On the contrary, the negative energy output will make girls feel stressed. Even this kind of pressure is difficult to bear. I think you are not a good candidate for your partner.

While the boys are outputting negative energy, they are also "depreciating" themselves.

For example: Inability to manage your emotions, inability to deal with emergency incidents...

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The goal of a relationship should be to maintain a harmonious relationship on the basis of keeping oneself.

In other words, one should not be willing to be in a passive position in order to upgrade relations